Emotional balance occurs when we allow ourselves to feel whatever comes up, without stifling or being overwhelmed by it, and learn to accept our feelings without judgment.
Most people try to avoid emotional as well as physical pain. After all, who wants to be in pain? Our wishful thinking tells us that if we can just avoid the pain, it won’t affect us. Ironically, efforts to keep painful thoughts, feelings, and physical sensations at bay may work temporarily, but in the long run only prolong those experiences and intensify the suffering connected to them.
Ways to deal with your emotions:
Personally, I’m a very emotional person and I have tried ways out to deal with my emotions. Few of them are mentioned below:
- Breathing exercise: helps a lot to calm down your emotions. Inhale and exhale for 5 minutes whenever you feel low.
- Practicing gratitude: think about the good things you have in life. Pause at regular interval throughout the day and consciously dwell on things that you are truly grateful for. Do not act or pretend. In every stressful situation search for one thing that you can say an honest thanks about.
- Change your viewpoint: If you’re stuck in the middle of intense emotions, you won’t see clearly and you will be reacting from past patterns. Act don’t react. Consciously choose your actions from a place of clarity, rather than just reacting to pain or running towards pleasure.
- Reflect: Take the last moments of your day to reflect on the good things about your day, seeing the negative experiences as learning and evaluate the perspective of what you can learn, not how you failed. Take stock of the positive and negative emotions you experienced throughout the day. Validate yourself for progress made towards your emotional, physical or career goals.
- Surrender: It’s good to visualize the future, butdon’t let yourself get too caught up in how things “should” be. Be prepared to let go of your attachments to any particular outcome so that you can be open to something bigger than you have ever imagined. Learn that to yield does not mean that you lose and be willing to compromise. Let life lead you down unexpected turns and you will discover magic in the most ordinary places. Trust me it works wonders and leads to many beautiful things.
Primary Science Facilitator, International Centre for Excellence